6 Singaporean guys tell us about the biggest turn-offs on women's dating profiles

In a recent deep dive into the top turn-off for women when it comes to the dating profiles of men in Singapore, Channel NewsAsia discovered that the profiles of men who make them themselves out to be athletic and adventurous are far more likely to get right swipes than those who openly express their love for gaming and anime.

The article ends by musing that if there is a "problem with Singaporean men, there must be a "problem" with Singaporean women too, so we decided to switch things around and ask the guys what the biggest turn-offs are when it comes to the dating profiles of girls here. 

“Girls that are too f**king woke are such a turn-off. They come off as overly pretentious, especially those who write “they” or “them” in their profile–I just roll my eyes and swipe left.

Girls who have a chip on their shoulder when it comes to men really get to me as well. Why are you on a dating app full of men, only to hate on men?

A lot of Singaporean girls are also hypocritical: they moan and groan about patriarchy but then expect you to pay for their meals. I’ve lived in other countries before, but it’s predominantly in Singapore that I experience this level of entitlement.

When girls offer to split the bill, it’s polite and shows me that you appreciate the companionship.”

– Alex T, 26

“Most of the time, I can tell just by their outward appearances that our personalities wouldn’t match.

For example, if a girl is too localised, she’s probably not my type.

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There isn’t one trait in particular that makes me swipe left–I take into account their education level, job, dressing, written skills (like how she types) and of course, looks.

Girls who look like they expect everything to be given to them and that they would take it for granted are a hard pass.

I’d say if your photos show you all dolled up carrying an Hermes bag and if you look like you don’t have a real job, it’s going to be a left swipe from me.”

– Charles S, 31

"It’s simple: if she has two pictures and both of them have animal ears floating above her head, it’s going to be a ‘no’ from me. And if the only pictures she has are heavily filtered, then she’s definitely hiding something.”

– Dave W, 26

"I'm not a fan of bios that state “NO ONS, NO FWB, NO HOOKUPS”. Girls shouldn’t assume that every guy is looking to sleep with them.

There needs to be demand before you offer or deny your supply.

When I see that line in a girl’s bio, I feel like she wants to low-key brag that guys want to sleep with her and that she feels the need to prove something.

Another red flag for me is girls that only post group photos.

Regardless of whether they’re pretty or not, if they don’t have the self-confidence to post solo pictures, then we can’t date. I’m not here to validate your insecurities.’

– Ashton C, 25

"I personally don’t like it when girls make it known on their profiles that they like intelligent conversations.

To me, it comes off pretentious.

I mean, everyone likes intelligent conversations, so they shouldn’t have to put it out there because just to seem like their of higher intellect.”

– Brian Y, 25

"Girls who use filters in their pictures make me feel like they’re hiding their imperfections and immaturity.

Just take a normal f**king picture.

Bio-wise, people have a lot of stupid things to say and I don’t have the time nor interest in reading them all.

If a girl has a crazy long bio, I usually skip reading and swipe just by looking at their photos.

Also, some girls like to plenty of demands in their bios, such as “HATE smokers”, “MUST BE TALLER THAN ______”, and “If you don’t watch Friends, then we can’t be friends”.

Those are all huge turn-offs because I don’t even know you and I already know 100 ways to piss you off.”

– Sean T, 24

This article was first published in CLEO Singapore.